HOW TO BECOME A BETTER LOVER – ORGASM

A woman’s orgasm is not necessary for her to become pregnant, so that it is not necessary for procreation. But a man’s orgasm is vital for procreation. If a woman happened to have an orgasm it was obvious (to men) that it should occur during sexual intercourse, and preferably simultaneously with the man’s, because this demonstrated his domination and his skill as a lover.

The effect of these cultural values has been to develop stereotypes, which are merely shorthand ways of describing a current ‘ideal’.

In Western society, the stereotype of a woman is that she should always be attractive, always available for sex, and always ready to give the man pleasure. In return, he gives her love. She trades sex for love while he trades love for sex. She trades sex for the social and economic security which the man gives her. He gives her money, he looks after her welfare, and he provides shelter and clothing for her. In return, she gives him companionship and sexual relief and provides him with children. And because of the marriage vows she believes that she is legally obliged to give her husband sex whenever he wants it.

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