MAKING ADVANCES: VERBAL COMMUNICATION AND JUDGING RESPONSES

Conversation, too, whether at a casual encounter, an intimate dinner, or during the course of work, can be a huge sexual turn-on. Glances are often exchanged and conversations may include messages with a double meaning that test the interest of the other person.

Expressing ideas, motivations, goals and aims can bring two people closer together than can many other activities. And, where there are areas in common — similar interests, ambitions and plans — this is very thrilling to both partners. The exchange of thoughts and ideas along these lines between a couple who are sexually aware of one another is, in my opinion, one of the most pleasant ways of initiating a sexual relationship, and also it will solidify the relationship once it has begun.

Judging responses-By paying attention to body language and other signals, you should be able to see if you are having a positive effect on the other person. Encouraging responses include raised eyebrows, wide-open eyes and dilated pupils. A definite “come-on” signal is if you are looking into each other’s eyes for longer and longer periods, and if you are standing close as you do so. You can test this by moving slightly closer and seeing whether the other person draws away (negative) or not (positive). Watch the gestures the person makes; if he or she nods the head in enthusiastic agreement at what you are saying, or if he or she touches you to emphasize a point when talking to you, you are making progress!

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