THE FALLACY OF FOREPLAY
A significant number of women believe that most men do not get much pleasure from ‘foreplay’. They only use ‘foreplay’ to arouse their partner so that she is ready for what they really want, and that is to put their penis in the woman’s vagina. Many men see foreplay as a necessary nuisance, not as an integral part of love-making.
The word ‘foreplay’ is a bad one. It usually means what you do, by touch, to arouse your partner before you have sexual intercourse. In other words, you cannot have foreplay unless it leads to sexual intercourse and ejaculation. It makes sex the routine women complain of . . . foreplay (kisses, breast stimulation, genital touching) then sexual intercourse. This debases the reason for foreplay, which is to pleasure each partner so that each becomes sexually aroused and enjoys the arousal as much as the intercourse. A better term to describe this part of sexuality is ‘mutual pleasuring’. ‘Mutual’ because it is done to each other, ‘pleasuring’ because the whole purpose of the touching is to increase the emotional and physical pleasure of the encounter. Besides, pleasuring is an old English word for enjoyable sex. Pepys used it in 1666.
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Posted on March 11th, 2009 by admin
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