CHILDREN’S SLEEP:WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME?

Friends are saying, “That child is running your life.” Others are saying, “She will start sleeping better soon—just be patient.” Then you hear the dreaded “My child is three years old and still doesn’t sleep.” You think, that can’t happen to me! That won’t happen to me!

You are ready to make some changes. But you wonder…when is the best time to start working on it? When can I realistically expect my child to make some changes? The answer to the question “when” is a complex one and mu be examined on two levels: a child’s readiness and the parents’ readiness.

Child’s Readiness. Before you decide to change your child’s sleep behavior review her readiness. There are a few factors to consider.

Check developmental stage. Be certain that your expectations a appropriate for your child’s developmental level. Know what is considers “average” for your child’s age. For example, when you learn that most two year olds need a nap, you will feel more confident in expecting one. Although you can take preliminary, stage-setting steps beforehand, a child might not have the neurological maturity to sleep all night until he is six months old. Do not feel burdened by norms, but use them as guideposts.

Consider temperament. Personality or temperament should also be taken into consideration—especially during developmental upheaval, when getting through a typical day is a feat. Generally, this would not be a logical time to introduce new expectations.

Other factors. Never begin a new program when a child is ill or is dealing with other changes—for example, a new house or a new sibling. Try to consider the whole situation, but if there never seems to be a “right” time, ó may be making too many allowances. There will never be the perfect time; ó may just have to plunge in. Children are incredibly resilient and adaptable.

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